What’s the point of all this? That’s the question most men will ask themselves at least once in their lives, usually when the noise of the world fades and they’re left alone with their thoughts. It doesn’t matter how much success we’ve achieved or how much validation we’ve collected ,without a mission, life feels hollow.

Success was supposed to be the pinnacle, right? You’ve played the game, earned your stripes, and now you sit at the top of the mountain with the world at your feet. You’ve achieved what so many spend their lives dreaming of—wealth, recognition, status. And yet, here you are. Numb. Unsatisfied. Frustrated.

There’s a moment in every man’s life when he realises the game is rigged. Maybe it’s a bully at school, a strict teacher, or a boss who seems to enjoy crushing your spirit. James Hillman captured it perfectly: that confrontation with unfair authority teaches us something primal. We learn that the world doesn’t care how big we think we are. It’s not a fair fight, and if we want to survive, we’d better learn to play by the rules, even if those rules demand that we shrink ourselves.

We like to think we’re good communicators. We assume people understand what we mean, that our words land the way we intend. But more often than not, they don’t. Messages get lost, meanings get twisted, and what we think is clear turns out to be anything but.

And here is the real issue. Most men don’t even realise it is happening.

Anger is a fire. It’s raw, consuming, and unapologetically powerful. For many men, it’s a familiar companion… one that simmers beneath the surface, ready to explode. But here’s the problem: most of us don’t know what to do with it.

Think about it like this. A baby can feel anger, sadness, fear, and joy straight out of the womb. Crying when hungry. Smiling at a familiar face. Startling at a loud noise. These are hardwired into us. But shame?

A baby does not feel shame. A baby can sit covered in food for hours, completely at peace. A baby can run naked through the house without a second thought. No embarrassment, no self-consciousness, no shame.

Men are not great at talking about emotions. That is not a personal flaw, it is a learned behaviour. We were taught to keep things to ourselves, to “man up,” to push through rather than process. So when we finally do speak, we often disguise our emotions with words that soften or complicate them. Instead of saying we are afraid, we say we are anxious. Instead of saying we are angry, we say we are agitated. Instead of saying we are sad, we say we are off.

There’s a lot of noise these days about what it means to be a man. Some say it’s about dominance, others about stoicism, and some insist it’s about rejecting every traditional expectation entirely. But amid all the shouting, something critical is being forgotten… something ancient, primal, and powerful – Brotherhood.

Every man has a vision of who he wants to become. Maybe he sees himself as disciplined, confident, powerful, unshakable. A leader. A man of integrity. A man who is respected, trusted, and fully in control of his life.

But most men never reach that version of themselves.

It is not because they are lazy. It is not because they are incapable. It is not because they lack intelligence, resources, or opportunity.

It is because of one thing.

The man they had to become to survive childhood is standing in the way.

In the modern world, there’s a narrative that teaches us to chase personal success above all else. We’re told to focus on our goals, build our wealth, and protect what’s ours. But here’s the hard truth that too many of us overlook: real power and fulfilment doesn’t come from what we gain… it comes from what we give.

Your brain is not designed to make you happy. It is not wired for peace, contentment, or long-term fulfilment. It is built for one thing – solving problems.

This is why men who have no real challenges in their lives start creating them. It is why successful men, after achieving everything they thought would make them happy, often feel lost. It is why the modern world, which has removed so much of the real struggle men faced for generations, has left so many men restless and unfulfilled.

If you do not give your brain a real problem to solve, it will invent one for you.

There’s a myth that’s been sold to us that the pinnacle of masculinity is being a lone wolf, the solitary figure who stands apart from the crowd, indifferent to the need for connection. We’re supposed to build our empire with our own two hands, stand atop it alone, and look down at the world like some untouchable force. It’s the kind of story that feels powerful…until you live it.

Organisations can greatly benefit from the insights of Jung, Maslow, May, and Frankl in their efforts to support the personal and professional growth of their male employees. By understanding the key concepts and theories of these psychologists, organisations can create a work environment that is supportive, fulfilling, and satisfying, leading to increased motivation, job satisfaction, and overall success.

Ten books that provide a range of perspectives on the male psyche, from a scientific and psychological viewpoint to more spiritual and philosophical understanding, and offer insights into the complexities and nuances of the male experience.

Men are often encouraged to be strong, stoic, and unemotional. This societal expectation can be damaging, leading many to suppress their emotions and ignore any trauma from the past . As a result, they can struggle with intense emotional reactions to certain events and situations, without understanding the root causes of these feelings.. In this blog post, we will explore the role of past trauma in men's personal development, using the quote "If it's hysterical, it's historical" as a guide.

The field of men's personal development has come a long way since its inception and has been shaped by the contributions of numerous psychologists, but four individuals stand out as the most influential figures. Carl Jung, Abraham Maslow, Rollo May, and Victor Frankl are widely recognized as the pioneers of modern men's personal development and have left a lasting impact on the field.

Forgiveness is another crucial step in the healing process, both for ourselves and towards the person who caused the wound. This does not mean excusing harmful behavior, but rather releasing the negative emotions that have been holding us back and freeing ourselves from their grip

By taming the dragon of ego, individuals can achieve a greater sense of self-awareness, balance, and harmony in their lives. By embracing the power of the ego while also keeping it in check, we can harness the dragon within to achieve our goals and live our best lives.

To blame feminism for men's dissatisfaction with modern work life is to ignore the deeper roots of the problem, which lie in the economic and social structures of capitalist society. While it is true that women's gains in the workplace have created some challenges for men, ignoring the deeper rooted problems doesn’t allow for real solutions to be found.

Ultimately, when men embody their king archetype, they have the potential to create a better world for themselves and those around them. By embracing their leadership, responsibility, and compassion, they can become forces for good in a world that sorely needs it.